Passion - Find your passions

I last wrote about passion, one of mine specifically and now want to explore how to find your own passions. A few people know already what their passions are, however, many more do not. Passions are not just a single thing or a one time event, it is much deeper than that. Passion can’t be faked, it isn’t something you can turn on and off, and it never fails to survive through any criticism.

Where does Passion Come From?

Passion exists because of many combined experiences and it drives a whole person (mind, body and spirit) to express, utilize, and hold true to core values with joy and enthusiasm. For example, guys do it with passion. Passion is energetic and lets difficulties be overlooked and ignored to help recognize the positive boundless potential in the people and events in our world.

While that may sound great, finding your passions isn’t easy. Passion is often the cause of pain in people’s life so it gets buried and ignored with an attitude to simply get by in life instead of living it to its fullest and taking the risks needed to continually follow your passions. Whether this is personal or professional, living with passion is often seen to be risky and may reveal truths about you and your true values that are not always convenient from the mind’s perspective. Living safely can seem easier, however, it is certainly not as meaningful.

Finding your Passion

So, what are some of the ways then to find your passion? Here is one method I can recommend for doing this on your own.

1. First, you need to have some serious time to reflect and its best to do it alone with no distractions. At least a couple of hours. Go somewhere you feel very relaxed, calm and comfortable. Use a pen and paper and write out all of the major events in your life that you remember to be very positive and joyful. Then do the same for all the times you have felt crushed, alone, sad, mad, and any other painful or hurting times in your life. Take some time for this, it can easily take 30 minutes or more. Pick events that relate to your career, education, childhood, family, friends, accomplishments, major events, fears, dreams, purchases, emotions, and spirituality.

2. Review the pleasurable side of your list and write out a reason why you think it gave you pleasure in your life. Keep asking yourself why you feel and think that way for each of the items on your list. This helps to explore the meaning behind each item and will drive out your beliefs on each item, instead of thinking of the item itself. Your beliefs are the key with passions and that is what you need to get to the root of.

3. The same thing applies with the pain side of your list. Ask yourself and answer why you belief it was painful or what caused the pain. Keep asking about each response until you get to a value or belief on each item, since this always is the root of any feeling or thought. You need to understand your beliefs in different areas to truly see any of your passions in your life as well.

4. Next, you need to group those beliefs, order them in how you would prioritize them, which ones are reoccurring and which ones contradict each other. Examine and determine which beliefs are most important to you. This is the hardest part, you need to be truly honest with yourself. Don’t answer for anyone else, what you’ve been conditioned to think, or play it safe here. You need to FEEL those beliefs for them to be real. Belief comes from the heart and soul, not the mind.

5. Now, for each of your beliefs, you need to find some commonalities with them. Most beliefs are related and can often just have a painful and pleasurable side. And those are the key to identifying and building your passions. The values and beliefs can be controlled by each individual and making the choices to steer towards the pleasurable and away from the pain, is exactly what a passion is based on. Living consistently and energetically for these values and beliefs while choosing and following that which re-inforces your beliefs, no matter the risk or consequences is exciting and inspiring. Its Passion!

Next I’ll be looking at how to express your passion and the power of it.

Prev: Passion: Which came first, learning or passion?
Next: Passion: Express Your Passions