Being Humble: Action Steps to be More Humble
God, Life March 10th, 2008
If you missed it, jump back to Part 1 – Being Humble: What does that mean?
Now that we’ve explored what it means to be humble and some of the attributes to recognize a humble person, this article has some specific actions anyone can learn to be more humble.
Thank Others
Make sure you take every opportunity you have to thank others for what they do and what they help you with. People don’t accomplish anything on their own and it always takes help from others. Thank them for this help. Whether its your boss, spouse, friends, or stranger, thank others for whatever you can. Being humble in other’s eyes means you don’t claim your own accomplishments, and instead, thank others for how they helped, what they did, how they encouraged or supported you, etc. There are always things to thank others for. Find someone each day and thank them for something. That said, I want to thank each of YOU for reading and supporting this site, it wouldn’t exist without you!
Redirect Praise
Redirecting praise is useful to be more humble and modest. If you don’t accept praise outright and instead, redirect it to others who helped you, trained you or even allowed you to do something, you pass on that praise to others without taking the credit directly. Accepting praise doesn’t really make a person less humble, but down playing your significance or importance on something certainly makes you more humble. Knowing and sharing the fact that you were not the reason for some accomplishment goes a long ways in the eyes of others. This is especially important in work groups and it drastically reduces the risk of anyone thinking you take all the credit. If you deflect or redirect all praise and credit given you to others involved and truly believe the fact that you weren’t that significant, you further develop a humble attitude.
You Don’t Have to Be Right
A humble person never tries to out do someone else and make themselves look better or smarter. This includes having to be right. When you try to prove you are right, or even when you say something simple like "I know", you are showing dominance over the other person. Instead of wanting to be right, even if you know something already, simple say, "Interesting, thanks for that." A humble person knows only one thing, that they are NOT always right! If you have an idea to present or a solution to offer, don’t try to convince others that its the right solution. Say something like, "I have an suggestion, although I’m not sure its the right thing to do, since I’m often wrong, which is to [blah blah]…" Make an effort to being humble using these types of suggestions so you don’t come across to others as always having to be right.
It Wasn’t You Who Got You Here
People are constantly striving for success and they often feel very proud of themselves for getting to where they are at. Humble people are not proud and know that they didn’t get themselves here. They know that others helped them, encouraged them and assisted them to get to where they are now. If you recognize this and always see how others help you out, you can be more humble by sharing that fact and not taking credit yourself. This is similar to the first one on the list, where its important to thank others.
Don’t Be First
First is not necessarily a bad thing, however being first can come across as competitive, self promoting or demoting of others. None of those things are common for a humble person. In a group or workplace, if you don’t be first to speak, participate or get involved, you give others a chance to be first. This can be very humbling for several reasons. You may see that others have better or smarter ideas than you had in the first place, you’re not the only one capable of the task or message and that you aren’t necessarily needed as much as you would like to think you are. These are very humbling realizations so if want to learn to be more humble, next time you have a chance to be first, don’t!
Appreciate Everything
So many things around us are not our doing, we often forget to see our own insignificance since we get so focused on our own lives and accomplishments. Well to be humble, its importance to recognize and appreciate all the wonderful things around us. Appreciate the place you live, the health, wealth and happiness you experience or have opportunity for. Appreciating things adds greatly to a person’s humility and knowing that we have so much to be thankful for builds on many of the other items in this list. Look around in nature and at the beauty of life sometime and just take it in for a few moments. Think of the world and the awesome creation that God has provided you, and its impossible NOT to be humbled. Show this appreciation in your life and spirit and it will certainly help you be more humble.
Listen More Than You Speak
Similar to the item above, "Don’t Be First" it applies to listening in a more broad sense. Listening more than you speak can be very powerful and if you use this you can learn many things about others and practice humility in how you respond. It gives you time to think and provides time for others to share their own opinions. Listening more can be very respectful to others, and you can learn a lot more by listening to others than you can by speaking.
Don’t Judge Others
Last but not least, a very important aspect of being humble is to not judge others. Judgment is a dangerous thing and you can’t stay open minded, receptive to ideas, empathetic or appreciative of others if you are judging them or their ideas. Everyone is different and have different ideas and when you judge those, you are really showing that you have some overseeing significance or power to make a judgment call, which you certainly don’t if you want to be a humble person. So, to be more humble, practice leaving others to show themselves over time and to let their ideas play out without judgment. Definitely, make an effort not to express judgment and don’t talk about people behind their backs. This is just another form of judgment and shows dominance, so don’t judge others, and you will be more humble.
Better is a person of humble standing who nevertheless has a servant, than one who pretends to be somebody important yet has no food. Proverbs 12:9
I hope this list is helpful and that each of you can take some of these steps to being more humble. I know that writing and researching this has been a bit humbling for myself, since I know I don’t do all of these things. I obviously have my work cut out for me. My next and last article in this series is going to look at Being Humble: Why Bother?. I hope you will come back and read why I think being humble is important and what it is useful for. I’d love to hear any other tips and ideas you may have for this list of action steps to be more humble, if so, please comment them below!
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March 24th, 2008 at 1:31 AM
thank you, guy
April 4th, 2008 at 8:22 AM
I liked this article, but I disagree with two points.
“Don’t Be First” – it would be more accurate if you said “Don’t Compete To Be First”… there’s nothing wrong with being first, the problem comes when you start needing to be first.
“Don’t Judge” – You have to judge… if you don’t, you will have problems getting anywhere. What you need to do is avoid thinking that your judgment is set in stone, that it’s perfectly accurate, or that it has anything to do with their actual worth as a person. I may make a judgment that someone is untrustworthy… that judgment is, if accurate, extremely beneficial to me (it keeps me from trusting them with anything important). I am, however, still open to being proven wrong, and I know that my judgment is based on what I see from the outside… which is not necessarily an accurate reflection of the inside. I also know that a person’s worth is independent from my judgment… which can definitely keep you humble.
April 4th, 2008 at 10:18 AM
Thanks Jason. You are right on both points. These steps are ACTIONS to actually BE more humble. You will not BE more humble if you are still first in everything you do, whether you are competing for it or not. Others will NOT see you as humble if you are always first. So, I’m just suggesting that sometimes you need to not be first, whether you competed or intended to be or not, doesn’t really matter much!
And thanks for your insight on judging others. I think many people struggle with separating your judgements and how you actual treat others, like you have suggestion you do already. Good points!
April 4th, 2008 at 11:27 AM
I disagree with you on the being first thing… BEING first has nothing to do with being humble (nor does other people’s perceptions of you being humble, for that matter). You may simply be efficient. When it moves from simply being first because you happen to be first to STRIVING to be first, it’s a pretty sure sign that you have forgotten to be humble.
For example, I’m very fast at doing math in my head, and can often spit out an answer first… but I don’t think doing so makes me any better (or worse, for that matter). It’s simply a part of me like my brown hair. The fact that I’m first to answer a question doesn’t make me not humble, it just means I’m efficient at doing that.
At the point that I felt like it made me better to be first, or worse to not be first, then humbleness comes into play. As it is, though, it has nothing to do with it.
You lose sight of being humble when you either think you ARE better than someone else, or you do something to TRY to be better than someone else (or the opposite, try to see them as worse/make them worse)… if those aren’t your motives, then any action that you take has nothing to do with whether you are humble or not, regardless of how it appears from the outside.
April 4th, 2008 at 4:09 PM
Your last couple points are the key I think Jason. Its in your motives for this one, regardless of how it appears!
April 24th, 2008 at 1:15 PM
hey…. i really like ur article…. i think its great cause it helps out people like me that are really cocky…. i used to be humble but after i started winning a lot in my track competitions and became a state champion i got really cocky…. i dont like that and now i want to become a high position officer in my JROTC class and my problem is that i am cocky so people think i am just there for the high rank, which is not true…. well i want to thank you for writing this article…. it has helped me a lot… thank you… jason
April 24th, 2008 at 1:16 PM
hey… i just want to let you know that i am not the same jason as the one that doesnt agree with your article… i am another jason…. just letting you know so you dont think i disagree with your article.
April 24th, 2008 at 2:03 PM
hey jason, thanks for your comments, I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Its great to hear when these do help others!
The fact that you already know and are willing to admit the fact that you are often cocky shows a humble attitude. Keep that mindset and look for ways to bring the status of others up before yourself and you can definitely change back to your humble thoughts!!!
November 30th, 2008 at 3:41 AM
I like your article , but i am suffering of how to be humble .It was really hard ,because i often judge other and i cant control myself . Could you teach me how to be humble ?
November 30th, 2008 at 4:20 AM
It was really hard to be humble .I always cry and sad about how to be humble but even i have read how to be humble , i also cant .When people praise me , i always said no about what they praise but it doesnt work because when i thought myself suceed humble after people praise ,then i will be proud again .I hate myself , why i was so bad .I also cant accept others comment about me and i always tell God to help me but i still cannot . Ohhhhhhhhh i was so upset . I want to be happy but i cant .I felt worst and worst everyday .Every day , i proud and began to worst and worst .I always think about my goodness but i really dunno how to control it .I afraid to tell my mother and others about this .It was a shame .I also eat a lot of medicine to suicide because i felt i cant live .But even i tell God , but i still felt God doesnt help me .I was very afraid when i know i am proud .You are a humble man , please , could you teach me on how to be humble ?I always cannot control myself .I also judge my friend ,i always think their badness e.g always take away the thing i want , proud ,bad,always bad tempered and others .Ohhhhh how could i live in this world !I felt ashamed for this .Please help me and save me! I hope i can live in a happy ,humble and content live .You are my hope !Thanks for helping me !
November 30th, 2008 at 6:02 PM
Patricia, I’ve emailed you and will be happy to help however I can.
December 1st, 2008 at 1:10 AM
Oh ,thanks for e-mail me !I judge my friend in school .I just judge them but did not compared them to anyone .I know it is wrong but i cant control it but i did not apply judgement to myself .Oh ,can you also teach me how to dont accept praise , i donno how to overcome this .Thanks for your guide !
January 29th, 2009 at 10:56 PM
I really appreciate this type of information.I will follow these precepts,they make so much sense.thanx again…Asha:)
February 28th, 2009 at 5:04 AM
I’m happy that I open this site..thanks for this article…I hope I can apply this steps of yours..But I have a simple-but-perplexing question that I can’t decipher even it’s so easy.Its confusing me, please give me a quick response, if its alright? Is there a deeper meaning of this famous quotation “Don’t be so humble,You’re not that great” by Golda Meir? It is necessary to be great first before to be humble?..pls help me to clarify this puzzling thoughts of mine..THANKS a lot..
February 28th, 2009 at 6:47 AM
Well, I can’t say I fully understand that one actually. I would guess only that Meir is saying that being humble is even demonstrating a great trait, and so if you appear humble, then that itself is showing your greatness, which is exactly what humility is not! It’s an impossibility with that statement that I think would be the point, you really never can be absolutely and completely humble. Intriguing quote…
April 11th, 2009 at 9:18 AM
I have struggles with humility and pride for a long time. It’s been affecting my marriage and this article was helpful and i plan to follow these steps and get a mentor from church. God bless you and thank you for sharing.
April 11th, 2009 at 12:52 PM
Thanks for sharing Alyce! Recognizing and admitting the problem is the hardest part before change. You can absolutely change your thinking and your actions to be more humble, its a learned behavior. I’ve glad the article has helped you and don’t hesitate to ask if I can help in any other way.
May 17th, 2009 at 1:02 PM
Hello, I have something to say. Ok, so in your article you say not to judge right? Well, I see a part of your article that is conderdicting, about judging right? Ok, so, what gives other people the right to judge whether or not someone is humble or not? That is for God and ONLY God to judge!!! So, according to you and this article, the whole world isn’t humble because they are too busy judging whether or not someone else is or is not humble. So, everyone in this world has a problem with judging so that would technically mean that no one is humble!!! If they are going to sit there and try to judge whether or not someone else is humble, then they are far from being humble themselves, am I making any bit of sense to you? Because it all makes a lot of sense to me.
May 18th, 2009 at 7:18 AM
Baby Doll. I have no idea where you read what you stated. I never said you have the right to judge whether others are humble or not. The article lists ways to be more humble and recommends not judging others, that’s about it, nothing contradicting.
Humility is not an absolute either. Can you be humble, sure. That doesn’t mean you are the perfect example of perfect humility. I think its all relative when you really look at it.
August 27th, 2009 at 6:22 PM
I agree with some points on here-
When someone cannot humbly accept praise though -and downplays their abilities to seem “Humble” (like is common in Japanese culture and upbringing) that is false humility. Over the years I found others to think it annoying when you cannot accept a compliment from them. If someone else was indeed involved, it’s good to simply say “Thank you sooo much! My friend ’so and so’ was a big part of helping, I couldnt have done it without them” which sounds so much more positive than ” oh, I couldve done better” or putting one’s self down; that’s not humility but false piety or lack of confidence.
I’m starting to realize confidence is more important- when you become truly confident (but not brazen), you can be truly humble- although no one is perfect-
Also to reiterate what another person wrote here- being first isn’t always BAD- it’s bad if you feel the need to always be first- but if you somehow do become first for something, accepting it with tons of gratitude is the best I think.
I also wonder how to become more humble when faced with someone you care about- and their behaviors are hurtful to you, also about being humble when the work you do (being an artist) is something you need to promote-but do not want to appear as “showing off” but merely trying to make a living by sharing what you do.
Humility in relationships is difficult too- if one person is so humble to the point it makes the other person feel almost guilty in some way for not being as humble, but with more boldness. I do know, when saying something that isn’t humble- my heart immediately knows it afterwards and creates a guilt- self hating pain inside. If someone wasnt humble at all, they wouldve even care – I think.
Yes, perhaps it is all relative to the person, situation, and occurance!
August 27th, 2009 at 10:12 PM
Great points here Miss Birdie. There is definitely that “image” or “false” humility often displayed because people have learned that is good or useful, like the culture you describe. That is just a show though, not in the person’s heart at all so its not humility really. Humility is way of the mind and soul, not just what you say or display. I also don’t perceive humility to be hard in relationship, what makes it hard is that people (even in close relationship) are often competing, either for love, praise, attention, recognition, something. This competitive drives the ego and selfishness, instead of humility. If you offer those things to another, don’t build yourself up or expect all of your actions to receive the same, its can’t hurt the relationship. Guilt comes about from things that are done in error, not from missing something, that is jealousy. And trust me, jealousy is not typically existing towards a humble person, its usually founded in possessions, looks, status and other “temporary” things. I hope this helps give some more things to think about, you have definitely done that more me now as well. Perhaps this is a topic I will write about again soon. So, thanks for the comment!
August 29th, 2009 at 8:31 PM
… thanks for this article, i really helped a lot..
i am just wondering what to do if others start to abuse you with this type of personality..
i have another problem… i have a friend who pretends to be humble but unknowingly just trying to pull someone down.. like when he unconsciously judge and talk degrading things to other then suddenly pretends to humble himself….
September 10th, 2009 at 5:18 AM
Oh..
Thank you for this site i can do my assignment now because i need to make album for being humble
Thank You!
September 20th, 2009 at 10:43 AM
I know they are old posts, but I do agree with Jason’s first two disagreements; it is ok to be first as long as there is not a ‘desperate’ need to be first.
More importantly, yes, you can and should judge. Silently. To yourself. This is what develops our morals, and who we decide to be, but judging others around us. Not comparing, judging, and then applying to our own lives; in our own ‘heads’, without sharing with anyone else.
March 4th, 2010 at 4:24 AM
This site has been everything I’ve been looking for. Lately, I’ve lost sight of what’s important and others have suffered from my wrath. I definaltely needed a huge slice of “humble pie.” Thank you!