Comments on: Being Humble: Action Steps to be More Humble

By: Shiva

Shiva — Thu, 10 May 2012 16:22:24 +0000

Hi Mike,
I am thankful to you from the bottom of my heart!!! I could able to reach certain heights in my life because of many many people but, some time or most of the time….recently, I am getting into lot of troubles after the simple conversation with others. Now, I could able to realize that it is purely my mistake that I was dominating the others and need to change my attitude. Hence, I gave a search in the google that “how to become humble” tips. I am so happy that I could able to get your nice suggestions. Great work and thank you so much…

By: TDS

TDS — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:32:15 +0000

Thank you for sharing this information. I’ve been reading ! Peter 5 (the 1st 9 verses) and coupling it with the tips in this article will really help me to continue the path to being a great leader. I’ve also shared it with several others that I work with.

ENJOY LIFE!

By: Matthew

Matthew — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 12:31:49 +0000

Something I did not realise I went away from. Because of my insecurities I come across as something I dont want to be. I didnt realise I was trying to hide my insecurities and basically come across as arrogant. My biggest problem is that I fear been critisized as I used to think I always used to be and still do think it. But it’s most likely all in my head. Just my insecurity and lack of confidence in ability due to the thought that people are always going to critisize me, hurt me, laugh at me. I tried so hard to be a confident, social and person who people wanted to be around that I became basically arrogant. When I should realise I dont need to be like that. I’m me for a reason and there are people who want to be around you for who you are. You don’t realise just what you can lose in life when you lose track of who you are. Trying too hard to fit in or be someone else when in actual fact you’re pushing others even futher away. I bring this to attention because I know I wouldn’t be the only one. And want to get a point across so much that you should only ever be who you are. No matter what people say about you, never forget you are great and you are unique in your own ways, we all are. Never lose faith of who you are and don’t try to be someone youre not. Always try to be thankful, appreciative of everything, realise you don’t always have to be right, have the last say and you don’t need to be judgemental of others. Believe in yourself and who you are. We are all human. We are all the same. What makes each of us special is that we all have our own unique ways. Be grateful of who you are.

By: Mike King

Mike King — Tue, 28 Feb 2012 03:37:06 +0000

THanks Sasha, you've added some great comments and discussion points. They are not always straight forward to answer since circumstance changes each situation. Compliments I will say have one good answer and that is "Thank you". Don't try to dismiss it, change the comment, be defensive, or brag in any way saying your age to impress. People taking advantage of you can only really be handled by learn to say no. Read more here. As to lending stuff, keep the generous spirit you have, it is good to give. Give with a hope to have things returned, but it you don't expect it, you can let it go more easily if broken or not returned. If its intentional, then that's a different conversation to have. Reminders and simply asking for items back before they are lost or damaged might help you keep more control of stuff that gets lost or broken otherwise. Being a good steward of belongings is not just to keep it in good condition but to also let it be enjoyed by many so hopefully you can find a way to balance lending and sharing stuff with keeping it in good condition. Maybe the value and importance of its condition needs to be shared before you lend something out? Its a bit off topic from being humble and I think the humility of lending can only really be realized if you lend with no expectation (in your mind) of getting it back in the same condition.

By: Sasha

Sasha — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:27:02 +0000

i like your article . may i ask a specific question.If someone praises you saying you look very young. After a thank you, is it polite to say your actual age which is not young at all. Or is it just self praise. Also how to respond politely if someone is taking advantage of your kindness. Example you are generous and helpful giving stuff and lending things but there comes a time when things are not returned or broken or people overstepping like expecting something from you every holiday season.How do you respond. Forgive and move on with the friendship but if it continues ?

By: ?!

?! — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 10:03:20 +0000

God Is The Judge. He is full Of Justice. He is fair and right! He says not too judge for You will be Judged. I agree with this artical.judging others especially if you don’t know that person is wrong. For Vegangance Is Mine the Lord says. None has No right too judge others for We ourselves sin. And God instructs Us not too judge. Pray for those who mistreat you. Love Your neighbor.Love Your enemies! This is God’s perfect law. Like Mary Magdalene she was a prostitute and people were gonna stone her. But Jesus said whoever is sinless cast the first stone. And everyone walked away except for Jesus Christ!!!

By: Movers Packers Gurgaon

Movers Packers Gurgaon — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:43:38 +0000

I agree, not confusing at all. But it does go against the popular top-down approach commonly practiced in management studies and literature.

By: Mike King

Mike King — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:45:40 +0000

@lori, great perspective you’ve added here. I definitely agree that self-confident and “awareness” of that is important to be humble and place others more importantly than yourself. Interesting indeed where you say, feelings of insecure or deficient thoughts lead a person to focus on themselves and building themselves up. So true…

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 23:44:10 +0000

Thank you for this article!I’d like to add a thought from the perspective of someone struggling with social anxiety/phobia. I’m trying to recreate myself to be more self-confident while being less self-centered. I am by no means an expert, but after reading a lot on the subject I’ve come to think that when low self-esteem (i.e. judging yourself negatively) leads to self-consciousness (i.e. thinking that others are judging you negatively), it may feel like being humble because you think lowly of yourself, but it is actually a form of pride because you are so preoccupied with your own self-image. This suggests that true humility means to put less energy into what others are thinking of you (or even what you are thinking of you) and more energy into thinking about others. So being self-centered stems from low self-confidence and being others-centered comes from higher self-confidence. This would mean that narcissists and wall-flowers are both proud, they just have different ways of expressing it. So I would suggest that maybe part of becoming humble (and happy)is to develop your self-confidence to the point where you no longer feel insecure or deficient and therefore no longer need to constantly focus on yourself. Does this make any sense? Thanks for bearing with me. And thank you, Mike, for addressing this colossal topic!

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 03:36:34 +0000

This is good for my self help in becoming a better person. I am tired and beat up by my own weak mind.