Comments on: Being Humble: Action Steps to be More Humble

By: Movers Packers Gurgaon

Movers Packers Gurgaon — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:43:38 +0000

I agree, not confusing at all. But it does go against the popular top-down approach commonly practiced in management studies and literature.

By: Mike King

Mike King — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:45:40 +0000

@lori, great perspective you’ve added here. I definitely agree that self-confident and “awareness” of that is important to be humble and place others more importantly than yourself. Interesting indeed where you say, feelings of insecure or deficient thoughts lead a person to focus on themselves and building themselves up. So true…

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 23:44:10 +0000

Thank you for this article!I’d like to add a thought from the perspective of someone struggling with social anxiety/phobia. I’m trying to recreate myself to be more self-confident while being less self-centered. I am by no means an expert, but after reading a lot on the subject I’ve come to think that when low self-esteem (i.e. judging yourself negatively) leads to self-consciousness (i.e. thinking that others are judging you negatively), it may feel like being humble because you think lowly of yourself, but it is actually a form of pride because you are so preoccupied with your own self-image. This suggests that true humility means to put less energy into what others are thinking of you (or even what you are thinking of you) and more energy into thinking about others. So being self-centered stems from low self-confidence and being others-centered comes from higher self-confidence. This would mean that narcissists and wall-flowers are both proud, they just have different ways of expressing it. So I would suggest that maybe part of becoming humble (and happy)is to develop your self-confidence to the point where you no longer feel insecure or deficient and therefore no longer need to constantly focus on yourself. Does this make any sense? Thanks for bearing with me. And thank you, Mike, for addressing this colossal topic!

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 03:36:34 +0000

This is good for my self help in becoming a better person. I am tired and beat up by my own weak mind.

By: archangelo

archangelo — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 15:48:01 +0000

thank you for the very nice article… interesting

By: Dale

Dale — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 13:53:58 +0000

I guess it may be simply semantics.
I could accept “practicing” before understanding full value. Faking is something that we all have our antennas set up to detect before we are injured or taken advantage of. We’re looking to avoid the fake and ingenuous.
In Prayer by Philip Yancey, Philip writes about praying even when you don’t feel like praying. He claims value/benefit for the effort or practice even before we feel the spirituality of the moment. Later, we may see the cloudy window lifted and the benefit apparent. Right now, just do it, humble yourself, because you anticipate value and you know arrogance has gotten you nowhere.
Pride comes before a fall. Look at Wall Street. Nearly took a world to it’s financial knees. The earth still vibrates with the aftershock.

By: Mike King

Mike King — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 12:50:48 +0000

Everyone has had tremendous feedback and comments here and really do appreciate it all. Humility is a tough subject to teach or write about and unfortunately, sometimes to learn to do something you do have to fake it a bit to see the real value of it and to simply ‘experience’ it even if not legitimate until after experiencing it. Humility is a bit like that. If you haven’t had a rough time with some negative experience making a ego lifestyle a big problem, it is hard to recognize the value of humility. Practicing it though, changes that and you start to see subtle shifts and changes in how you can interact with people and how people see you. It has a big impact and like several people comment, starting with some of these makes a big influence then on others, definitely!

@Dale, Interest point about the recommended links. As much as I’d love to control every link, sometimes blog promotion comes down to automated plugins and this is a reason for this link, its a plugin link that provides links to similar sites with similar content. While it may not be a perfect fit for this article on humility, its related content and a way to expand my site and find new visitors, which is always a good thing when it comes to exposure. Thanks for the comments on this though about the shallow aspect of this compared to my writing and article content, its an honor to see your concern about that, so thanks!!!

By: Dale

Dale — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 10:21:06 +0000

Mike,
Your recommendation link to the Mind Warrior was disappointing. The Mind Warrior’s recommendations were thin and superficial. Like, “go buy something”, or “talk more about yourself, brag” or “find a confident person and act like them”. I look to you for more substance than temporary, quick, short lived fixes. To have that website linked back to your blog/article about humility was difficult to appreciate.
You and I know that we don’t increase our confidence by feeding our appetites. We build confidence by service to others. We find value in serving. Value, character, and integrity bring confidence and purpose. Setting improvement goals and finding the intestinal fortitude to sacrefice for those goals brings confidence. The Mind Warrior appears to be one of the most narcissistic blogs I’ve encounter. Please consider disassociation.
However, I have enjoyed your work. It has been of value; helping me improve and gain confidence. I look forward to learning more about you and sharing your site with others.

By: Janina

Janina — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 22:18:26 +0000

This artical is great! I have a lot to do to work on being humble and over all a better person. My attitude I guess has ruined a few relationships and i definitely want to change that. I will for sure look back at this artical as much needed.

By: sabbir

sabbir — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 06:44:01 +0000

thanks a lot. sometime you get answers of totally different topic, while you are doing something else. just got it. felt good to see myself going down as i was reading your words. i needed that.
thanks again.