As always at the start of a week I ask for articles to inspire us to cope with our grief, to cope with life whilst we recover from our bereavement. Here are this weeks positive thinking articles

Dr Martin W. Russell presents Working Through A Problem …

For me, I am sometimes so unaware of offending someone else even when its obvious I think my first reaction is to not worry about that reaction. If they are offended that you have something to offer, there may not be anything you can do about it.

On second thought, offering help doesn’t mean you know more than them or have the solution either, its just help. Sometimes saying that makes a big difference so they are not offended. They likely take offense at why you are offering the help. You don’t have to target one person if that is the case. If you think you can help them, that is not enough unless they want to be helped so by making it an offer, you let them decide. You can approach it by saying, “I may be wrong here, I often am, but I’ve noticed that you are struggling with this area (blah, blah blah) and I would like to help if I can. I have this and this to offer so let me know if that interests you or if I’m way off base here”.

That puts in their court to judge you and you still have an open invitation.

Does that help?

I appreciate your candid personal reflections and the great suggestion on invitations. I’d like to hear your comments on how to offer your help to someone who your concerned may be offended by the offer.