Jonathan at Illuminated mind provoked some thoughts on this topic for me by asking “What’s Right With Your Life? “  He challenges his readers and other bloggers that we often focus on fixing things that are broken and work to change things we don’t like in our lives instead of appreciating and looking at the things that are right.  While I do agree that many people look at it that way, I find it to be a comment and set of questions more about a perspective or way of thinking than it is about some general approach in life.  I initially had this comment below on his site and I wanted to elaborate on that further with this article.

One of the things that is certainly right in my life is having the drive and passion to live and accomplish my dreams! Those dreams change and so must the things I do. Personally development and self improvement are one avenue to ensure I’m capable of this. So in that case I’m not looking at what is wrong at all, but instead what it takes to expand the things that are right and make the most of them. I think if you believe you are fixing what is broken when it comes to personal development, you are approaching it from the wrong perspective in the first place.

To me, its all how you look at things and looking from the perspective you suggest as what’s right, is just a way to build more of that into your life. That’s what personal development is for in my eyes.

Be the Most You Can Be

So I don’t really think that looking at areas of change in our lives is in any way focusing on what is wrong.  Instead, its a way to recognize the areas that work well and that we want more of.  For some people that is success in work, or goals and plans with family, or areas of their spiritual lives.  No matter where this focus is for you, you can approach it by looking to be the best person you can possibly be and to make the most of your life.  That enables you to drive change and maximize the great things in your life and the lives of those around you.

Welcoming Change

Change is not a bad thing in life and it is certainly not a bad thing when you are looking to change in a way that is more beneficial to your lifestyle and those around you.  Striving to change in order to bring more happiness, joy, love and service into your life is not something that should be ever looked down on.  Changing this type of area in life is not about changing something that is broken, but instead, changing something to make more of it.  To reinforce your passions, to experience more joy and happiness in life and to bring more love and service into the world is worth welcoming into your life.  Look to change these things and bring them into your life.

Another perspective is that change is often presented as an opportunity, which most people would consider far from avoiding what is broken.  I see the same when looking to change the things you want in life.  It’s an opportunity to improve what you want and desire more of, not a way to fix anything that is broken.  I can’t remember who said this, but it’s been said, “That everyone makes the best decision they can possibly make at the time with what they know” (or something close to that) and I think that makes the point that as we learn more and understand more, our decisions will change but it is not because there is something to fix, it is just something to change!

Appreciating What You Have

With all of these comments about welcoming change and looking at self-improvement from a more positive perspective, I definitely agree with Jonathon that there is value to appreciate what you do have, instead of thinking that there are things to fix.  However, I disagree that it’s something to simply avoid because of that attitude.  We often forget to tell people about the things we appreciate and especially how we appreciate them in our lives.  This is hugely valuable not only to see and be thankful for the things in your own life but to also share that and show the same appreciation to others for the impact they have!  Wouldn’t you want your friends, colleagues, boss and loved ones to tell you sometimes what they appreciate about you?  Of course, so why don’t you start and tell them first what you see!

Being thankful for your talents, skills, health and life are all ways to better recognize how you can use those in life as well.  The things you do appreciate should not be hidden or protected from others, they are gifts and items to be cherished not by yourself, but with those you love and care for.  Whether they are material things, skills or talents, you can find ways to share them with others and still appreciate them.

You may say to yourself, “My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.”  But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your forefathers, as it is today.  If you ever forget the LORD your God and follow other gods and worship and bow down to them, I testify against you today that you will surely be destroyed.
Deuteronomy 8:17-10

I truly believe that the changes in live, the experiences everyone has and the skills and talents people develop are not by their own doing, but gifts by the grace of God.  Appreciating those and making the most of them for the service to others is worth any focus and attention you can give them. This includes talents in self-improvement and personal development.  People have grown accustomed to strive only for material things and be complacent with their mind’s ability in all areas of life from knowledge to spirituality and self-discovery.  These are the areas of life that can bring an understanding of meaning and purpose beyond what any material, temporary thing can provide so using them to find, explore and share the things that are right in your life is not only something you should appreciate, but also something you should continue to develop and share with others!

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